Impressing Girls (I need help!)

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Personally, if I'm interested in a girl I try not to show them magic but if you decide you want to make sure you do a trick that allows you to touch her, like a transpo in her hands or coin unique in her hand.

[eostresh]

Going to the Gym and having a high income is more likely to get you a boy friend over a female that's anything more than a gold-digger that will leave you in a hot second for someone with a bigger pot of gold. . . but speaking of boy friends. . .

The evolution of same sex partnering is one of the most complex in evolutionary psychology, let alone attention getting strategies within that subset. If you have an interest in that I would recommend anything by Frans deWaal. His work with Bonobos did a lot to educate people on the broad range of behavioral repertoires within sexual politics. Incidentally, I had the opportunity to hear him speak at a conference about ten years ago. Not only is he brilliant but he is a very down to earth and funny guy.

[deezy]

Thanks for all of the input. Where can I learn the french kiss by wayne houchin?

[eostresh]

Thanks for all of the input. Where can I learn the french kiss by wayne houchin?

Wayne Houchin's "The Art of Magic DVD. Fantastic DVD. Great for anyone new to magic since it spends as much time discussing performance theory as teaching tricks.

[DavidTang]

Lol this stream is hilarious. My best advice- be yourself. If she's interested in you then your magic will come up eventually. Or sometime you could just naturally be holding something like a coin and then ask her if she wants to see something.

[Steerpike]

Lol this stream is hilarious. My best advice- be yourself.

That advice is actually rather hollow for a couple of reasons.

Number one being, which you are you referring to? Who you are changes depending on social context. You are not the same person to your friend that you are to your boss for example.

The second being, what if you don't like who you are at this moment? What if you want to be something better? Wouldn't it be better to show people the person you aspire to be?

The ironic thing is that I've known a lot of people who trumpet, "Be yourself," from the rooftops, but then I see them socializing and they lie like dogs. They have no self-awareness. They're still acting on approval-seeking behavior, trying desperately to please everyone. And it's even worse when they're around women they're attracted to. Then they turn into asexual robots incapable of saying, "No." It's painful to watch.

[tokyoUW]

Someone comes in and asks a question, and everyone takes it upon themselves to show their higher intellect and infinite wisdom in the world of dating and romance.

Instead of trying to sum up your infinite wisdom in the world of dating, and teach it to someone via a BBS post in a feeble attempt to seem superior and "ahead of the bunch", perhaps you could just answer his question, and let him figure things out for himself through natural means and life experience?

To the OP: I would stay away from cards, and do a simple production or vanish with an everyday object to get her attention, if she takes the hook and seems interested, you can read the air and decide if you want to take it further and show here an actual trick.

[Randy]

How about not use magic and just walk up to her and say Hi and start a regular conversation and then if the moment if right maybe produce a coin or a napkin rose or something.

[Steerpike]

Someone comes in and asks a question, and everyone takes it upon themselves to show their higher intellect and infinite wisdom in the world of dating and romance.

Instead of trying to sum up your infinite wisdom in the world of dating, and teach it to someone via a BBS post in a feeble attempt to seem superior and "ahead of the bunch", perhaps you could just answer his question, and let him figure things out for himself through natural means and life experience?

Someone provides an answer describing things someone may not have thought of at first, and some guy takes it upon himself to show his higher intellect and infinite wisdom in the world of teaching and advice.

Instead of trying to sum up your infinite wisdom in the world of teaching, and lecture someone via a BBS post in a feeble attempt to seem superior and "ahead of the bunch," perhaps you could just let them give their answers and not trivialize what they learned for themselves through research, study and life experience?

[William Draven]

So there's this girl I like and she doesn't really know I do magic. I think it would be really cool if I impressed her with a trick. Does anyone have suggestions as what to perform? (I'm not really looking for conjuring roses or that sort of thing) Your help will be greatly appreciated.

This is such a hot topic on the forums, and it seems to pop up once in every few months or so. Usually it goes something like "I'm a magician, and I want to pick up on girls? How do I use my magic to do so?" Then that gets followed by three or four pages of people saying you shouldn't do it, and sprinkle in a few that say you should, and then finally (for good measure) add a dash of people trolling the opposing point of view for suggesting the things they did. Tah-dah! Typical dating thread.

Personally I think doing magic to pick up girls is shallow. I've been married for 6 years and never in the 4 years I dated my wife did I ever attempt to pick up on her doing magic tricks. Probably why she married me, sure as hell wasn't for my money being that I'm an entertainer!

I also know that this opinion isn't unique to me. It's been echoed through these halls before from other magicians, and believe it or not even some girls feel the same way. Check this out; The last time or two this conversation came up I took it upon myself to poll the ladies in my break room on their opinion. That being what would they feel about a guy using magic tricks to pick them up. Nearly all of them responded with something along the lines of thinking the tactic was tacky. They'd much rather cards, gifts, flowers, or candy over a magic trick.

Now if you're going to do it, no one can stop you. I don't have a lot of experience with this subject mostly because I've been off the market for a while, but I would think something like flash paper to rose production, French Kiss, or a ring flight would probably work well. You could probably Google for a few DVD's on the subject too. I know I've seen a few how to pick up chicks with magic DVD's on the market in the years past, I just can't tell you who they are by or who published them.

Personally man I'm not a huge advocant on the subject. I'm in the boat with the rest of the people who think it's lame to pick up girls using magic tricks. But if you can somehow make it work for you then more power to you!

Cheers,
Draven